I grew up Catholic, so you can guess how much sex was discussed in my household. Even though I came of age in the 70s, my girlfriends didn’t discuss it much either.
When my daughter became of age, she had no qualms about discussing it. Not the “Gee, mom, can I have some advice?” discussions. The concept that I might know more than she did would have made her laugh. No, we’re talking, “…and then he-” type conversations.
You remember how you hated to think about the fact your parents were having sex? It’s worse when it’s your kids. And then you meet the boyfriend in question. Don’t smile at me, dude, I know where that mouth has been!
Thankfully, my daughter has outgrown the need to tell, just in time for me to start writing steamier love scenes. We still talk sex, but now it’s in terms of my stories. She’ll call me after attending a “passion” party and list the games and toys I need to research to add to a story. She called just now on her lunch break to talk about those late night radio talk shows geared toward young people’s love lives. We now have the premise for another story.
She’s now the cool girl at those toy parties, when she announces to all “My mom writes erotic romance.” I’ve lived my life in such a way to make my kids proud. Who would have guessed that for one, that moment came when I sold my first erotic romance novella.

